I have come across few women in my life who have been the
My aunt was a victim to such a person. She married the guy her parents chose for her.. he was the only son among 7 sisters.. quite wealthy and royally pampered from childhood... She saw the change in him within a month of the wedding.. he started throwing the plate with the food on her face, if the taste were not upto his standards.. waking her up at middle of the night for water even when she was running a very high fever and prohibiting her talking to any males including her own cousins.. He would act very sweet and innocent with rest of the family or her family members.. No one would have suspected such a monster lived underneath his innocent smile...
This aunt of mine had hardly finished her 12th grade and already has two kids, so divorce seemed like a really big step, since she would have been unable to stand her own and support the children too. Finally her parents and family went and drilled some sense into her husband's head.. Since other members in his family are quite nice, She still stays with him and he seems to have controlled his temper a lot better now.
All the while when this was going on, i was in total support for her to get a divorce. I kept telling my mom why should she leave such a terrible life. But since she has hardly studied, i guess it would have been impossible for her to support her two kids and give them a good future. Maybe she did stay back for them.
I have always wondered how can a women go through such torment and harassment.. why doesn she walk out.. but i have realized something .. when u love the man in your life blindly.. you really want your relationship to work out, no matter how bad the situation is.. i would be doing the same for my boy for upto some limit... But am lucky enough to have a really amazing person in my life...
For all the unfortunate victims.. who live the torture each and everyday.. its never too late to end a nightmare and start a new life and find a caring man.... Please draw some faith and inspiration from this lady's blog.. she is truly courageous to walk out and make a better life for herself rather then living in hell.. i know it may not be that easy as said.. i really cant talk about the emotional torture one goes through due to this.. it can only be spoken by a person who has lived the nightmare..but then you have to draw a line somewhere and decide "Enough is Enough"..
Life does not have a defined time limit.. so you gotta be strong and start living someday!!!
3 comments:
I read both the posts.
Harassment is still continuing even with the educated class. Only movies have stopped talking about them...
But nowadays woman have a choice. They don't have to remain silent. But many would still like to give it a chance and wait till the last straw of their patience is checked....
nice change in blog layout :)
hope all is well - havent seen you around much!
as for harassment - i think our governments need to have some clause for correcting the heinous crime - only a woman is capable of enduring patiently - not cuz she doesnt think too much of herself - but because she pays more respect to the bond she is in and that is ridiculous!
Thoughtful post :)
Well..My views are similar to you.. Even when I here such kinda things..I feel so agitated n wonder why do women still try to live with it? Why dun they get out of it and lead a life in the way they want.
Then Im told about the society..How filthy these people are.. nothng happens when a guy moves out af a relation , he gets married to some other gal but the women.. she has to face alot of hardships n taunts. and even her parents are afraid of the society.. thatsy they usually dun encourage divorce and asks their gal to adjust.
I dun know when people will start thinking out the box and support the women and put an end to this thing.
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